Yesterday we went to visit some friends who have just bought a cottage in Aberfoyle in Stirlingshire. They're lovely folk who are just about to have their first baby in November, and I was curious to see where they have laid down roots for their impending family of three. Within seconds of our arrival, the kids were in the back garden on the swing set:

We don't have this, we have a communal back garden that's landscaped. With nine retired neighbours who watch our every move from the window lest the kids disturb the garden. Let me pan out:

That spot of water that you can see is Loch Ard. And let's swivel around to the other direction:

Those are (I believe, pardon my ignorance) the Trossachs. We went for a walk down their quiet lane towards the village, and met a stream and bridge:

And a further three minutes down the road, a playground right at lochside:

Here's
a random Bavarian milkmaid with a rather fetching bag me at the playground:

And a closer photo of Loch Ard:

And the boys admiring the view:

And another swivel to the side:

We had
such a nice day, a glorious day, a perfect day... Well, minus the fact that Maia was foam-at-the-mouth jealous that Daddy's friend was named 'Jamie' and not Maia, and cried half the way home as
our Jamie rubbed it in.
I grew up in the woods of northwest Connecticut, no neighbours for miles, just forest. Wild animals, adventure, tree forts, and freedom. No threat of traffic, no worries of 'predatory strangers', my parents let me and my friends roam free in the woods for hours in the age before cell phones. We were around, somewhere, and that was enough. We would come back when we were hungry, or tired or it was getting dark. And we did. But growing up in the middle of nowhere made me want to live in a city, I wanted what I never had. The convenience, the culture, the architecture, the history, the bustle, the ready-made friends just next door. But that's just me,
I wanted those things. And now I've chosen this city upbringing for my children. I've started agonising over this decision. We live in a city of half a million residents. We live near a very busy road. We worry about 'predatory strangers'. We live near green spaces but they're not our own. Is is right my children won't have the freedom I did? The glory of nature that I did? I'm torn.